Making Money at Home

So I know I haven’t been an active blogger, and honestly up until now, I really have not cared to write much of anything. Today is a new day.

I’m going to do everyone a favor and skip the heartfelt stay at home mom just wanting to make money from home story. Everything I share in this article, I have legitimately earned money from and I am sharing with you for two reasons. The first being that I love sharing what I know. The second reason being, I’ll get paid to post this. Yes, really. From more than one site.

The list of information below is everything I use to make extra money, and if I do it right, and stay dedicated to these sites, I can pull in about an extra 100- 200 bucks a week. No, you aren’t going to get to quit your job or get rich quick, these are all Paid to do sites, meaning, the more you do, the more you get paid. .

sign up with the links below, MOST of these sites will give you bonus points for being a referral, and when you refer your friends, you’ll get a bonus too. Plus, feel free to e-mail me, and I can let you in on what I do an how I get it done.

EarningStation: http://www.earningstation.com/account/register?ref=974210

This website, if you want cash in hand, its’s 2,500 points to cash out $25 USD via paypal they credit faster than every other site I am a member of and as previously stated, I’ve been paid by every site I’m listing.
The fastest way to earn here is to participate in surveys and watch videos, plus there is an app for your phone, iPhone and android as far as I know, and it runs pretty smoothly

Irazoo: Go to Irazoo.com and enter in Y8SKY2 in the referral box and you should get bonus points for being referred by me. Plus you only need 3,000 points for $5 USD. This one I can cash out once a day just from playing videos in a side bar and playing a game. I started this morning with 300 points and at 2.pm with very little effort I’m only a few hundred points away from cashing out. This one does take a little longer to credit to your paypal, but again when you’re getting 5 bucks just for watching videos and playing games, can you really get mad?

 

Swagbucks: http://www.swagbucks.com/refer/csalbrent

This one actually has a promo running right now that you’ll get an extra $5 USD for signing up as a referral, follow my link to reap the benefits. Swagbucks is similar to EarningStation. 2,500 points equals $25 USD and the websites are set up fairly similar.

On this one you get swagcodes daily and you get bonus points for completing daily tasks. It takes a few days for your paypal to be credited, but they have always come through with no issues.
plus if you love amazon as much as I do, you can cash out an amazon gift card at just 450 points. you’ll get it in your e-mail and be able to directly apply it to your amazon account.

GiftHulk. http://www.gifthulk.com/invite/CA1428734

This site is probably the second easiest site to use. The only thing I DON’T like is that there is no mobile app. BUT it runs pretty smoothly in my mobile browser, so I can’t stay mad. Especially because it’s so easy to earn. This one is a little different, it’s 5,000 points to cash out $5 USD BUT all of the tasks are higher coins. For this website, I mostly do gift hulk TV, and you get a bonus of 10 points if you disqualify from the peanut lab surveys.
GiftHulk is also really good at making sure your payment is in your paypal within a couple of days and once you reach Gold level, you get “cash back” or a percentage of your points back into your gifthulk account so you never start back at zero.

 

There is so much information for each site, and other sites I work with that I’m going to be writing an article for each website individually. For today, this is what I want to recommend, pick one of these sites, follow the referral links and start trying it out. The worst thing that can happen is you don’t like them. The best thing, is that you’re going to get paid no matter how long it takes you to earn, free money is free money.

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4 problems you will most like encounter while dating if you are into fitness.

Today what I want to talk about is a problem that I have been facing for about the last year, to year and a half. I have become married to fitness, in such a way that it has nearly excluded all other options for a relationship, and even some friendships. I always Joke and say that “My boyfriends’ name is Gym” which is true, Gym was even my valentine. Never in a million years did I think that living a healthy lifestyle would be the cause of a long-term friendship dying. I think that knowing how this is going to affect your experience is the best way to educate and prepare yourself.

Finding a middle ground

First of all, finding a common ground is quite the experience, even with your friends. If you are into fitness and most of your friends are not, it’s not your friends’ job to change their life because you found a new hobby. That doesn’t mean you need to dump your old friends either.

When it comes to dating, if you are REALLY serious about making fitness a lifestyle, I think the best thing you can do is find someone with the same passion as you. PLEASE for the love of all that is holy, do not. I REPEAT DO NOT date someone from your gym. Unless you know them outside of the gym. Just trust me on this one. Things get awkward, VERY fast. Try using fitness dating sites. According to www.no1reviews.com the number one fitness dating site is www.fitness–singles.com . Don’t be shy and go take a look around! If online dating isn’t your thing, try joining one or more of the hundreds of events geared towards fitness in your area.

 

Remember:

If you’re friends are trying to make you feel bad about expressing how happy you are, chances are, they are not very good friends. Keep in mind that this will set the tone for every piece of progress that you have. If they don’t care that you are happy, but they are perfectly fine to talk about getting blasted every weekend, it’s best to distance yourself a bit. Especially why you are making fitness a habit, not a chore.

 

Figuring out what to do:

The first thing that someone suggests when taking you on a date, is dinner. The absolute worst meal to get lazy on, is dinner. It’s best to eat clean all the time, but I do one cheat day a week, usually Fridays. Which is exactly what I say, it just seems no one wants to eat at a healthy restaurant or wait until next week. Even though it feels like dating is out to get you and make you fall off the fitness wagon, you need to remind yourself that you are doing this for you. You can lie all you want to everyone else, but you are the only person who needs to be happy in your skin. Another reminder I can’t say enough is: It is okay to love your body and still want to change it.

 

What you can do:

When someone asks you out for a drink, suggest something a little more geared toward the middle ground. A place where you can eat clean, and he/she can eat whatever they want. Think a picnic, or even dinner at your place if you are comfortable enough with them.

Keeping up with your gym routine

I personally, go to the gym at almost exactly the same time, every day, except rest day on Sundays. If your new beau or belle is trying to pull you away from the gym. It’s best to establish how important it is being at the gym and maintaining your routine. Make you sure express that it’s not that they are not important to you, it’s just that the fitness is your passion and that you need and WANT to maintain it.

Remember:

You still need to make time for your budding relationship. However, you also can’t sacrifice the thing that makes you happy, if that person is not willing to understand your passion now, he or she probably won’t understand it later either. Communication is always key.

 

Feeling held back/ Being discouraged.

 

A relationship can be a source of mutual love and support, but if you are feeling worse with your significant other than you were without, it’s time to take a step back and evaluate your relationship. No one should ever be allowed to make you feel bad for investing in yourself.  If fitness is your passion, then the only way to fulfill that passion is to live it. If your significant other is holding you back from trying to venture out, you need to be open and honest about how you feel. I’m training for the tough mudder, and if I was told by someone I’m dating that I couldn’t do it, I would probably get my things and get the hell out of dodge faster than you can say burpee pull-ups.

Reminder: You still need to consider if your significant other is feeling neglected, if you can’t dedicate enough time to him or her, then you should  probably reconsider your ability to be in a relationship.


Almost 30 things about dating that this guy is TOTALLY wrong about.

So while browsing good Ol’ Facebook, I came across an article written by Chuck Henderson on Wall Street insanity. First of all, the women he is getting this experience from must be sad little women.This whole article spent more time pissing me off trying to make important relationship conversations taboo than it was probably supposed to. After reading a ton of his stuff, he definitely isn’t a bad writer, and for some reason this one is just not his best.

The problem with this article, is that it sets men up to think that their girlfriends are delicate pieces of glass that can’t handle anything negative. When in all reality, Men have been scientifically proven to be more sensitive, but better at hiding it than his female counterpart.  Owen Marcus* has an extremely well written article that goes into the science behind why this is true and how it has been proven in part one. The following is quoted from that article and the link is posted at the end in “credits”

University of Pennsylvania neuroscientist Dr. Ruben Gur says that the same way men and women have different bodies, they have different brains — with eons of evolution creating distinct wiring. It goes well beyond the formative impact of testosterone and estrogen. Other studies elaborate on the biological link to male-female communication styles. Men are wired to act during times of high emotion, since emotion can lead to violence; there is a shut-off mechanism. He stops talking — just when women, wired entirely differently, want to talk. Boys are more fragile than girls medically and emotionally. Boys are more susceptible to birth defects and developmental disabilities; they are more vulnerable in the womb, with more fetuses lost in miscarriage. As children, they are more easily stressed, which means they cry more when they are upset and have a harder time calming down. And they are more emotionally vulnerable to the ill effects of extreme lack of affection.”

So, here is the article plus my annotations, and why it annoys me. Some of his points are totally valid, and that is also noted.

 

We all make mistakes. Forgetting to study for a test, blowing a presentation, invading Iraq—these are all things that can be forgiven and recovered from. But saying the wrong thing to your wife or girlfriend? That’s the kind of mistake you’ll be paying for the rest of your life.
The rest of your life, really?  Unless you tell your wife or girlfriend something completely heinous, chances are, she’ll probably just be pissed off about it a couple of days. 

If you’ve ever uttered any of the phrases on this list, you probably realized your error right away and silently prayed for the ability to travel in time just so you could go back a few seconds and keep your damn mouth shut.

Ugh, just, no. stop. I’m seriously hoping this is an article similar to something on the onion. please, just let this one thing be true.

Learn from those of us who have gone before you, my friends. Memorize these things and never say them, even if—no, ESPECIALLY if—you want to hurt her. Instead, take a deep breath, count to ten, then say one of the things on Part II of this list instead.

30 Things You Should Never say

1. “No.”

This is in response to anything she asks you to do. She doesn’t know the meaning of the word unless it comes from her own lips.

What am I dying or something? Trust me, I know what the word “No” means, and if you can’t handle rejection, you are too young to be dating. If you can’t be honest with your significant other, you also should not be dating.

 

2. “Can I Kiss You?”

They hate this. It’s a total mood-killer. Just go for it. If she turns her head or pushes you away, that’s a much better form of rejection than the word, “No”

I don’t hate this actually, a better way to say it however is probably “I really want to kiss you”. Please don’t listen to this article and start sexually assaulting innocent women, because the next thing out of your mouth will probably be “she was asking for it, the article said so”

3. “Did You Cum?”

If you have to ask, she shouldn’t have to answer.

Also not true, I’m loud all the time, not just when I cum, so I promise, it’s okay to ask, but don’t get pissed when she’s honest with you,  just finish her off.

4. “Is That What You’re Going To Wear?”

Best case scenario—you’ll be waiting around for an hour while she tries on ten different outfits.

— so you are going to let your significant other go out looking like a moron? maybe you can help her instead of sitting around complaining for an hour.

5. “Are You Sure It’s Mine?”

Nothing good can come of this question. If you have doubts, do you own detective work.

If there is a question of paternity, you should probably bring it up. it’s not a difficult test to be done, and later on when she takes your ass to court, it will look better for you. If there has been infidelity, or you weren’t exclusive, whatever the situation, talking about the issue right away is the best decision. This guy is a moron, but he’s right in the WAY you shouldn’t say these things. A pregnant women can be terrifying, trust me, I was one. 

6. “What Are You Thinking About?”

Trust me, you don’t want to open that Pandora’s Box

—This guy is fucking stupid, if you care about your significant other, you should definitely want to pick her brain every once and a while. please not 4 or five times in an hour though, kay?

7. “Bitch”

You let this one slip and she’ll hold it over you for the rest of your life. But it’s still not as bad as…

–I call me a bitch all the time, she won’t hold it against you forever, but I promise you will regret it.

8. “Cunt”

Oh boy. This is the absolute worst thing you could ever call a woman and you should delete it from your vocabulary. There is no appropriate context. Unless you’re British. They can pull it off sometimes.

—Actually I can’t argue this one. Not even the British should use this one. please, just stop.

9. “Calm Down”

I assure you, this will have the opposite of the intended effect.

— Depending on the situation, a safer bet is,” let’s just take a deep breath, and talk about it”. Pretending that she isn’t over reacting is probably a bad idea too.

10. “That Time Of The Month?”

Or any variation thereof. Do you have a death wish?

If she is craving sweets, having cramps and is super bitchy, it’s totally legitimate to ask her if she’s got a rendition of The Texas Chainsaw massacre in her pants. Your reaction to it should be chocolates, pamprin, and a back rub. Acting like a period is the most disgusting thing on the planet is just going to make her uncomfortable with you, stop acting like a child. Especially if you don’t want children at this time, it’s a reminder from mother nature that she isn’t baking your genetic bun in her oven. Pipe the fuck down and be thankful. However, if you do want children, it’s a sign that she is healthy enough to continue to cycle, take note of the days and use it to stick your genetic bun in her oven approximately two weeks later. 

11. “She’s Hot.”

She might try to bait you with a “Do you think she’s pretty?” Don’t fall for it.

I check girls out, because I also like girls. I can’t pipe in on this one.

12. “I’m Such A Loser”

Or any self-deprecating shit like that. Even if you don’t really mean it, even if you’re just down in the dumps, save that one for your therapist. She wants you to be confident.

—It’s okay to express your self-doubt to your partner, especially if it is a really big deal to you. If you can’t use your relationship as a source of mutual love and support, why are you in it? Please see my previous article, “Bad relationships, I can’t” for more info on that.

13. “Are You Really Going To Eat All That?”

You might as well go ahead and call her a fatty. No sex for you.

—yeahhh, don’t comment on that. 

14. “My Ex…”

There’s no right way to finish that sentence, even if you were going to slam a past girlfriend. She wants you to forget every other woman you’ve dated.

—actually, I think that slamming an Ex is worse than speaking positively. If you are willing to spill all of her deepest darkest secrets to me, then I definitely wouldn’t trust you with mine. Also, I firmly believe that using every relationship as a learning experience is what teaches us how to be in a GOOD relationship, and how not to maintain it. 

15. “What Did You Do To Your Hair?”

I don’t care if she shaved her head bald. Tell her you love it and wait for it to grow back out.

— Eh, I think you can definitely express not liking her hair. However, be sure to tell her you didn’t like her because of her hair and it’s not that big of a deal and you definitely still love/like her, or whatever. Men need to be loved, but women need to feel wanted. 

16. “That’s Your Mother Talking.”

Comparing her to her mother, especially in a negative light, is the height of idiocy. That’s a complicated relationship, and you don’t know shit about it.

I am a mom, so lots of mom things come out of my mouth. A lot of times I sound JUST like my mom, and I am proud of that fact. 

17. “I Think I’ll Sit This One Out.”

If she asks you to go somewhere with her, even if she promises that it’s okay if you say no, she expects you to go.

—If she says it’s fine for you not to go, read her expressions and body language, you can just tell if she actually wants you to go. Also, if you really don’t want to go, she shouldn’t make you either.

18. “I Hate Your Friends.”

You don’t have to love her friends, but if you tell her you hate them, that’s a personal insult to her.

—Not piping in on this one, but if you like her and not her friends, it’s probably just lust, because chances are, she’s just like them. I know my friends and I are so similar, it’s scary.

19. “Can You Pick Up The Check This Time?”

You cheap bastard, just be a man and pay the bill.

— You really should not be expected to pick up every bill, because let’s be realistic, dating is expensive. I firmly believe if you can’t be honest about your financial position, you should NOT be dating. 

20. “It’s A Guy Thing. You Wouldn’t Understand.”

She’ll think you’re calling her stupid.

— I would never assume that he thinks I’m stupid, but again, if you can’t be open and honest with your partner, WHY ARE YOU IN A RELATIONSHIP.

21. “How Many Guys Have You Slept With?”

Most of the time, you really don’t want to know.

This is a legitimate question, talking about your personal experience makes it easier for you to protect yourself, the reality is that sexually transmitted diseases happen, and making it a taboo situation is just setting you up for walking on eggshells about it. 

22. “Can We Have A Threesome?”

If you really want one, you can’t just come out and ask for it. You have to get her to suggest it. It takes a lot of groundwork.

—Chances are, if she’s into it, she’s into it, if she’s not, she’s not. Bring it up casually instead and express that it’s a fantasy of yours. I can’t pipe in too much, because again, I like boys and girls. 

23. “I’m Not In The Mood.”

Just soldier up, my friend. Rejecting your girl’s sexual advances is a good way to get cut off altogether.

No. Just, do not under any circumstance have sex when you don’t want to. It is okay for her to not want it and it is okay for you to not want it. She might be a bit thrown off by it, but it is okay for you to have one of those days. 

24. “I Don’t Care.”

If she’s asking for your opinion, give one. Telling her you don’t care what movie you see or what you want to eat is like telling her you’re not interested in contributing to the relationship.

-This is literally my biggest pet peeve on the planet, aside from chewing with your mouth open. I fucking hate this phrase, so don’t use it. at least he got this one right. 

25. “You Knew I Was Like This.”

Big mistake. You’re not only agreeing that you have a character fault, but you’re also refusing to work on it.

—Why are you in a relationship in the first place if you aren’t willing to better yourself!? 

26. “You’re Crazy.”

Even if it’s true, you don’t ever want to say this to a woman’s face. Do it and you’ll see a whole new level of crazy.

—I’m not even touching this one. 

27.  “You Don’t Look So Good.”

You might be concerned that she’s sick or didn’t get any sleep, but she looks perfect all the freaking time. Remember that.

— If you are concerned, you need to ask her. Stop walking around on eggshells, she probably feels like shit, and showing that you are concerned is going to make her feel just a teeney tiny bit better.

28. “You Should Ask My Mom How To Cook.”

Oh, you dumb little bastard. She’s more likely to ask your mom how she managed to raise such a moron.

–If she really doesn’t know how to cook, maybe you should ask your own mom, dickhead.

29.“Have You Gained Weight?”

That should be a no-brainer. She can criticize your body shape, hers is off-limits.

I concur 

30. “Will You Marry Me?”

Just kidding. Sort of. Just try to make sure you only say this once.

—I’m a marriage hater, no comment. 

5 Things You Should Say

1. “I’m Sorry.”

If you feel a big blow-out coming on, just swallow your pride and say it’s all your fault. You have better things to do and more important principles to stand on.

—WHAT is wrong with this picture? Oh, probably just everything. You should certainly own up to your mistake, but there is no need to take all of the blame when it is also her fault. Also, if she can’t accept her part in the problem, the problem will never be resolved and you with argue about it ALL. THE. TIME.

2. “Tell Me All About It.”

You say this and she’ll talk for forty-five minutes straight. All you have to do is nod along and you’ll be branded a great listener.

—Nod along? You should actually,  I don’t know,  listen? There is a reason she is coming to you with a problem, and if you are dating her then you should care about her problems too. OR YOU SHOULDN’T BE DATING. 

3. “You’re Great At That.”

Just keep this one out of the bedroom. Boosting her confidence is always a good thing. You want her to feel elevated by you.

—Maybe I’m a little different, but honestly I don’t need my boyfriend to tell me I’m good at something. If I am, I know it, and if I’m not, I definitely know it. Raise your standards just a little bit boys, and find a woman who can be confident all on her own. 

4. “I’m So Glad You’re In My Life.”

Who wouldn’t love to hear that? It’s a great catch-all, and can diffuse almost any domestic dispute.

—How about instead you stop being so lazy and say, you make me a better person? Or maybe, I couldn’t imagine my life without you. Then be ready to list at LEAST 5 reasons why you think that. If you can’t come up with 5 reasons not involving sex, why are you in that relationship? 

5. “You’re So Beautiful.”

We get lazy with this one the longer the relationship goes, but you should try to remember to say it at least once a week.

—Once a week? That is pathetic. 

 

 

 

 

This is the little shit who wrote the original list: http://wallstreetinsanity.com/30-things-you-should-never-say-to-a-woman-and-5-things-you-should/

This is the well written article about sensitive men: http://owenmarcus.com/uncategorized/guess-what-turns-out-men-are-more-sensitive-than-women-part-1/


#YesAllWomen

I’ve come across the twitter movement #yesAllWomen, which then let me to the #NotAllMen. I completely agree with the #NotAllMen movement, except for one thing:
Not all men may be monsters, but all women in every City, Town, and village in the world has been harassed, or have feared their safety in the presence of men. All women have their self worth tied into the way they look. All women, have been taught that “if you don’t you are a prude, but if you do, you are a slut. -Breakfast Club (1985)

All women have the thought when walking through a parking garage at night that the man walking X amount of feet away, could silently progress and be behind her in X amount of seconds. So she glances over her shoulder every few moments until she is safely locked in her car. All women scan the room just to make sure she knows where the exits are if she needs them at a moments notice. When going to college, mothers and fathers are buying their set of fraternal twins two different things on their almost identical school lists. The female twin is getting pepper spray and rape whistles, while the male twin is getting condoms. We are taught to scream “Fire” instead of “Rape” because men are more likely to check on their belongings than to help a woman in a cry for help. 

YES, all women are taught not to walk down dark alleys. Instead of teaching men to respect women, women are taught to fear men. They should not be taught that she is someones mother/daughter/sister/friend/aunt. SHE IS SOMEONE and that is all that should need to be said. 

“We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller
We say to girls: “You can have ambition, but not too much
You should aim to be successful, but not too successful
Otherwise, you will threaten the man”
Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage
I am expected to make my life choices
Always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important
Now, marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support
But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage
And we don’t teach boys the same?
We raise girls to see each other as competitors
Not for jobs or for accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing
But for the attention of men
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are
Feminist: a person who believes in the social
Political, and economic equality of the sexes” – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (2013)

I say #YesAllWomen, because I am called names since I would rather be Celibate, and work on my career, my education and being a single mom, instead of sleeping with someone who looks my way. I have to apologize for not being interested. WE ALL APOLOGIZE “I’m sorry, but I’m not really interested” we. apologize. 

If your reaction to #YesAllWomen is #NotAllMen, congratulations, you are part of the problem. 


The 7 Dance Moves Of A Drunk White Girl

Thought Catalog

As a certified White Girl whose free time — as in, when I am not doing my charity work and hanging out with my close personal friend Stephen Hawking to help him work on his theorems — includes the occasional drunk Ke$ha dance session, I would like to take you through a few of our most coveted dance moves as a group. Follow me on this mystical journey through all things vodka cranberry, too-tight Forever 21 dresses, and miming our way over the N-word in our favorite rap song. It will be greater than your wildest dreams.

1. The “This is my song!!!”

I’m not saying it’s a Miley Cyrus song, but it’s probably a Miley Cyrus song. (Or nearly anything by The Backstreet Boys). In any case, the opening notes of “Party In the U.S.A.” come on, and it’s as though White Girl just stuck a fork into an…

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Bad relationships. I can’t.

So I’ve noticed a lot of people getting into relationships when they really shouldn’t and quite frankly, it annoys the crap out of me. So, before you get into your next relationship, maybe you should take a look at this blog and think twice

Reason Number One, Being pathetic.

Being a desperate bastard is one of the top reasons people get into relationship. It’s been proven by all of those ‘soft’ sciences out there that being lonely is one of the many fears people have. Everyone at some point in their life will make this mistake. Hell, I did it right after my ex-husband and I split up. He was just there, it was easy. Pretty sure that was the same reason he got into a relationship with me. I mean, that whole ‘thing’ was ridiculously idiotic on my part. Rebounds are bad mmmkay.

What You Should Do:

Make sure you really like someone and you are not just lonely. For example, if you have been spending a lot of time with a certain someone; try spending about two weeks apart. This should let you know if you actually care for this person or if they are just a filler in your life. A filler is much like the carbs you put on your plate just to fill you up. A simple indicator of actually caring for a person could be missing certain things about them. However, if you can’t figure it out, or you feel relieved because there are several qualities you DON’T have to deal with, you may just have a piece of bread to your meal.

Instead of getting into a relationship, try revamping your home a little bit. Create a positive place for you to be. Not only will you feel better about making your home kinda awesome, but you will have an awesome place to hang around!

Use this new position you are in to attempt new stuff. Nurture your creativity, read a new genre of books, listen to different types of music, paint, draw, make stuff with other stuff. Spend some time outside if you normally don’t. Museums and art centers are great places to find inspiration. Spending time doing things alone doesn’t necessarily make you pathetic, in fact, it shows conviction that you won’t settle for less than what you deserve. Some of the most world renowned celebrities spent a lot of time alone feeding their creativity.

*Just remember that it is not normal to feel alone when you are in a crowd of friends, family and acquaintances. This could possibly be because you have a hard time connecting with people. If this is the case, you may want to strongly consider counseling, as this can be very beneficial for you.

Reason Number Two, Don’t be a hornytoad

We all have needs, I’ll be the first to admit that. After my most recent break-up I think I made one of the smartest decisions of my life. I claimed celibacy. No, not for religious beliefs. I guess it’s more like my own version of celibacy. No relationships, no sexual relationships, just me. I found that I needed the time away from that whole scene. I have taken time to just be myself, I don’t answer to anyone, I’ve focused myself on getting my masters degree and taking care of my child (this also counts for my furbaby). Make no mistake, and this is also from recent personal experience, good sex is absolutely no reason to stay in a relationship. In fact, it just gets annoying. One person is almost ALWAYS way more emotionally invested in a relationship than the other. I’m sorry but if your dude drops the L bomb while his member is still inside you, run away. FAST. Trust me on this one people, he’s probably crazy. This always ends either messy, or someone is married and miserable.

What you should do instead:

Quite frankly, sex is definitely not worth a relationship, especially when you can do it better yourself. There are so many options out there for both men and women, that I would highly recommend using battery operated boyfriends (or girlfriends) over the real thing.

For those of you who are thinking you have no money for adult toys, I spent 20 dollars on one toy four years ago and it’s still kickin’. That thing easily has more miles on it than my car. Seriously, mix it up ladies, try watching some porn or something.

Guys, try a toy or two. No, you don’t have to stick anything up yer butt (unless you want to). you’d be surprised just how many toys out there are marketed to straight men. Try looking at several different sites and compare prices; look at reviews and compare those as well. For more tips on online shopping check out my blog “Don’t be an Idiot”

 

Egos make your penis small and/or vag loose.

This is a relationship based almost solely on looks. They are intrigued by something physical about their partner and they often enjoy the attention that is given to them. This is something that can be true for both men and women and this usually goes hand in hand with the whole sex-delio.

What you should do:

Just, don’t.

 

Don’t Knock Her Up. Bro.

Even though this seems like something from yesteryear, it happens all the time. People end up getting into an unhealthy relationship, or even worse getting married because they are having a kid together. This typically ends worse than any other type of relationship because usually one or more children are involved. Just because being an average family looks good on paper, doesn’t mean that it is actually a good place to be. Having a child never means you are trapped in a relationship. In fact, it can and often is, more traumatizing to a child/children to have two parents who are unhappy together, than two parents who are not together, but have a civil friendship and co-parent.

What You Should Do

The best way to avoid this is to be careful. I mean, seriously, wrap it before you tap it. Condoms might be annoying and expensive; but babies are even more expensive and chicks can and have totally lied about being on birth control. Really it isn’t unheard of. So uh, yeah. That’s that.

 

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Don’t be an Idiot.

The newest fad in the buyers market today is online shopping. The shit we own is supposed to tell people who we are when they enter our home. Obviously the people who say this have never been a college kid with a minimum wage job. Those assholes. However, if you think cheap and know where to go, you can have the things you want for a fraction of the cost and mostly right from the comfort of your own home. Clothing optional.

If you are looking to buy new, try using what I call “comparative shopping”. To comparatively shop, first, check out the “shop” option on Google. Yes, you little Bing using bitches, I like google and so should you. Thee end. The search engine compares pricing for you and makes buying “new” easy, cheap and effective, three words I REALLY like seeing next to each other when it comes to shopping.. or cleaning.. or food, but that is whole other topic. This sets your cheap… I mean smart shoppin’ little self up to find new and used products right in comfort of your own home and hopefully in your pajamas. It’s just like walmart, but for people who hate people.

Beware of shipping and handling costs. To avoid some of these charges try to bundle things for free shipping. Take advantage of things like Amazon prime. If you’re like me and have an online shopping problem, 79 buckaroos a year will save you a metric shit ton of money before you can even say, I like that vase… LETS GET IT.

Before you check out with all that shit in your cart, remember that buying online can be dangerous, (No Shit) so be sure to check how safe it is to purchase from websites that seem a little off to you. Google or other search engines, and by other search engines I mean google, are your friend if you are not sure try and find some testimonials NOT posted on the site you are trying to buy on. Also, take a look at your browsers address bar; if there is a padlock icon, it’s usually pretty safe to purchase from. Fuck yeah padlock icon thingies.

Next in the world of online shopping, believe it or not, is the one and only, Facebook. Your local towns and cities more than likely have what is called a “Buy, Sell, Trade” group on the social network. Jennifer Uttech founder and owner of the West bend area buy/sell/trade site had this to say “It’s excellent to be able to connect with others in the community and the surrounding areas; the members on the site can resell their belongings to help earn cash or just clear out the clutter! I started the group from nothing, and we have over 3,000 members today. It is a great privilege to be the owner of the West Bend Buy and Sell Group.” These groups are like online rummage sales. They really give life to that whole reduce-reuse-recycle thing teachers, and hippies have been pounding into our head since pre-school. Fuck yeah, hippies.

Luckily I live in a small enough city to have TWO of these handy dandy sites the other group on facebook is called West Bend Area Buy, Sell, Trade or Give away . The admin on that site, Ellen Barber also replied back when I asked her for a quote “I started this page about 3 years ago after I lost my job, due to the economy and being laid off… I did it because I felt many people like myself were looking for a way to make money as well as save money and this was a way to do it with out having to travel far, I felt it was better than ebay, no bidding or shipping, and safer than craigs list, because you can see who you are dealing with and cheaper than rummaging, you save on gas.” Just remember when you use these groups, these admins don’t get paid to deal with your petty, drama bullshit with Donna drama down the street. or to delete your sold items because you are too much of an inconsiderate dick to delete a fucking picture. Show a little respect when buying and selling, show up for your meet-ups and don’t be a little bitch because you didn’t get your way. This is a FREE service, and they put a lot of time and effort into keeping everything functional.

Lastly when trying to save a buck, look at refurbished electronics and appliances. Buying a refurbished product is like getting an automatic 15-30 percent mark down on the price tag because of something that can be as miniscule as an unopened returned product. Again it is imperative that you air on the side of caution. Be sure to buy directly from a manufacturer or a reputable dealer such as Amazon.com. Keep an eye out for products that say “Factory certified” and places that have return policies. It basically a sticker that means OUR SHIT WORKS. The last thing you want to do when trying to save money is buy a product “As-Is” and end up with an “It’s-broken” Even when buying new always get the offered warranty, its like insurance for your wallet. You never know if something will happen in the shipping process. If a place says absolutely no returns. I don’t care how cheap it is, fuck those bitches. They suck.

In conclusion, keep it simple when trying to save money. If you want to save some of your hard earned cash and still have the things you want, think comparative shopping, online rummages and refurbished products. Be cautious when you need to, but most of all, be patient. The easiest way to save money is to never pay full price. So take off your pants sit down in front of your computer with your blankie and stuffed unicorn, pop open that browser and happy fuckin’ shopping!


Equality: It does not serve your personal agenda

Equality: It does not serve your personal agenda

With all of the social stigma on same-sex marriage going on, it’s hard to listen to some of the ludicrous views the nation seems to have about the subject. Same-sex marriages should be legally recognized. Not, because I don’t have any religious beliefs or because that is how I choose to live my life. It should be legally recognized for three simple reasons. The first being, denying same-sex couples the right to marry communicates that lesbian and gay couples are inferior.. Secondly personal religious beliefs have nothing to do with what the laws are according to the constitution. Finally, it will provide improvement on economic conditions. Legalizing same-sex marriage will create jobs, increase state and federal revenue, and bring establishments more business.

First, denying same-sex couples the right to marry labels these people as sub-standard and sends the message that they are not fit to take part in other things that every person should have a right to participate in. The Massachusetts Supreme Court wrote in an opinion to the state Senate on Feb. 3, 2004 that offering civil unions was not an acceptable alternative to gay marriage because “…it is a considered choice of language that reflects a demonstrable assigning of same-sex, largely homosexual, couples to second-class status.” Whether the people like it or not the Gay community is here to stay. If the country is worried about “family values” A study published on Apr. 13, 2009 stated that laws allowing same-sex marriage or civil unions have no proven effects on heterosexual marriage, divorce, abortion rates,or the percent of children born to single parents. What same-sex marriage will have an effect on is adoptions rates. Currently in the United States there are approximately 130,000 children waiting to be adopted. Legalizing same sex marriage will make adoption a much faster process for gay couples as it is a well known fact that married couples are favored over single adults.

Secondly, someones personal or religious beliefs have nothing to do with the constitutional rights of Americans or their lifestyle. The constitution states in the first amendment that “Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof…” Also as stated by the 1967 Supreme Court case Loving v. Virginia confirmed that marriage is “one of the basic civil rights of man,” and same-sex marriages should receive the same protections given to interracial marriages by that ruling. Not only has it been stated on record by the Supreme Court but same sex marriage is protected by the commitments to liberty and equality in the constitution. The US Supreme Court declared in 1974’s Cleveland Board of Education v. LaFleur that the “freedom of personal choice in matters of marriage and family life is one of the liberties protected by the Due Process Clause.” Both the Due process and equal Protection clause were brought into play again by US District Judge Vaughn Walker who stated Prop. 8 Banning gay marriage was “unconstitutional under both…Clauses”

Last, and most importantly, same-sex marriage will be great for the economy. Legalizing marriage for any two people opens up a new and significant market for the wedding industry. Expensive wedding or not, more weddings means more jobs and stronger small businesses that are the bread and butter to the wedding industry. It is important, not to forget about the state income from the marriage license that will need to be obtained. According to policymic.com “last July, anywhere from 7,200 to 8,200 gay couples have wedded in [New York City] — that’s roughly 10% of all marriages in the five boroughs. The marriages have brokered in 200,000 out-of-towners, $259 million in economic activity and $16 million in taxes.” Also, same-sex couples are more likely to have two working adults in the household than traditional families. This will potentially put them into a higher income tax bracket. Additionally, if both adults are making a larger income, the marriage penalty tax (which is applied to married couples that file their taxes jointly) can create more revenue than taxing individual adults. According to Adweek.com there are roughly 646,464 unmarried gay couples in the United States and the average cost of a wedding is about $25,631 dollars. The astounding amount of dividends here are undeniable. Finally as bleak as it sounds, there will be divorces between same-sex couples, just like heterosexual couples. The cost of a divorce in the United States according to About.com averages at about $15,000. Marriage in itself is a money-making business and opening up to a whole new buyers market would have exponential advantages.

In conclusion, if the country could just step back and take a look at the whole picture they would see an entirely new issue. They would probably then ask themselves why this has been an issue, for so long when there are so many benefits. With the aforementioned statistics, if one in three same-sex married couples were to adopt one child, no children would be left stuck in foster care. Let us remember that marriage is “one of the basic civil rights of man,” as ruled by the Supreme Court, and denial of that basic human right is unconstitutional. Same-sex marriage will be creating jobs, state and federal revenue, and generating income for small businesses. It’s time to stop letting people politicize this issue to serve their own personal and religious agendas and think about the rest of the nation.

Works Cited

United states. Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court. OPINIONS OF THE JUSTICES TO THE SENATE. 2013. Web. <http://news.findlaw.com/wsj/docs/conlaw/maglmarriage20304.html&gt;.

“Marriage and Divorce.” (2013): Web. 2 May. 2013. <http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/divorce.htm&gt;.

Nathaniel, Jerome. “Gay Marriage is Good for the Economy: It Increases Government Revenue and Creates Jobs.” (2012): n. page. Print. <http://www.policymic.com/articles/12022/gay-marriage-is-good-for-the-economy-it-increases-government-revenue-and-creates-jobs&gt;.

“Same-Sex Couples in America.” How many married couples are there?. (2012): n. page. Print. <http://www.adweek.com/sa-article/same-sex-couples-america-140505&gt;.

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So, That’s That.

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My name is Cassandra.
I am 22.
Full time student.
Full time mom.
divorced.

I will be blunt and honest to the extreme. I highly doubt we will agree on everything. I tell dirty jokes, smoke cigarettes and probably drink to much when I do actually go out. I’m always laughing and I do my best to put a positive swing in every situation. Being a good example doesn’t mean being perfect, it means standing out; questioning everything, even if you are the only one doing so. It means admitting mistakes. Saying sorry. Working hard, and being the best you can be to your ability.

I’ve been writing for as long as I can remember, it is my passion. As I continue my education I have began refining my writing skills. I owe pretty much everything I know to my professor in my freshman year of college. My writing style will vary from controversial to informative, to downright silly. I suggest you get used to this idea.

I take 12- 18 credits every semester, but above all, I am a mother.  My 6-month-old daughter, Jo, is the most amazing little person. Her personality is huge, and She lights up my life in ways I could never imagine.


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